I'm sure you know this Sinatra song... and I find that it is constantly in my head as I enter the phase of life in which everyone... and I mean everyone is getting engaged or married. My refrigerator is slowly filling up with "Save the Date" magnets, Facebook is littered with engagement photo shoots and, one of the one of my favorite things about it: I am getting to wear so many of my cute dresses to wedding functions ;). But all of these nuptials beg the question... how the hell is everyone falling in love at the same time??
Now, before I get going, I need you to know, I LOVE love. I am one of the biggest advocates for love you will ever meet and love nothing more than everyone around me being in love but maybe it's just the cynic in me that needs to ask questions to really believe it all. I am BEYOND happy for my friends taking this amazing step but with so much of it going on at once, it makes me wonder what is going off in everyone's head around the age of 25 that screams, "Get married! Get married!"? Sometimes it seems like there are many people listening to their biological clocks rather than their hearts. I do not think there is a perfect age to get married but I do think there is a perfect time in a relationship. What is the rush, I wonder? Or maybe this is just my outsider perspective looking in...
If there is every any educated decision I want to make in my life, it's choosing the best possible guy for me... someone who will let me grow and not expect me to be exactly the person they married years down the line. I want to be much better later in life! I say this because I am always hearing people say, "He/She just isn't the same as they used to be" and I feel stifled just at the thought of having my personal growth stumped by being married... but I guess so many of my qualms with the state of marriage these days just highlights the fact that I have heard far too many complaints about it lately.
But, despite the divorce rates and the jokes about sexless marriages and nagging wives and distracted husbands, I still have high hopes for marriage... not just in my life but in other's as well. I have the most in-love parents you'll ever meet, a sister and brother-in-law that are kicking marriage's ass and some close friends who have never been happier. I guess it's all about choosing someone great and taking good care of them... I don't think there is some magic formula or process... just genuine love and mutual respect. At least... I think ;)
